This piece if for every single out there, both male and female. In the African society it seems when a person is single to a certain age in life especially a lady, it becomes a taboo or like a curse on the person's life. All manner of things are said to the person and about the person and as result pressure mounts on the person to get married especially on ladies resulting to wrong choices in choosing a life partner.
Being single is not a curse but rather it presents so many opportunities in life. It presents you the opportunity in choosing the right partner for you, it presents you the opportunity to embark on adventures in life, it presents you the opportunity in career path and enables you to go higher in your career, and most of all it presents you the opportunity to know what you want and need in life before settling down in marriage because the freedom you get while being single could be limited once you get married.
Its a beautiful thing to get married but its more beautiful to get married to the one you love and who loves you back. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured so when you get married get married for all the right reasons and not just for the sake of getting married because of societal pressures, peer pressures or parental pressures. Never give in to pressure to get married. Marriage is a life time thing and so to be enjoyed for the rest of your life and not to be endured.
God in 3 John 1:2 said " Beloved. I pray in all respects that you may prosper and be in good health just as your soul prospers". This includes marriage. God wishes we make it right in all things even in marriage. It is never God's plans that we fail in marriage. He instituted marriage and gives it to everyone who desires to get married but what you make out of your marriage depends on you entirely. The person you choose to settle down with in life depends on you and its your decision to make but before you make such a huge decision, always ask God for his divine leading and direction to the right person. You can not do this alone and succeed without God's help and backing.
For the ladies, don't just go for a man's look or wealth because these things can fail and won't make the marriage a successful one. no doubt physical appearances are usually and most times our first point of attraction but after you get attracted by a man's physical appearance, what next? is he able to love you for who and what you are? is he able to take care of you? what is his level of reasoning like? can you cope with his level of reasoning? what is his heart like? does he have a good heart? and most of all does he have the fear of God in him?
Now how about when you go after a man because of his wealth? what happens God forbid if anything happens to the wealth? what happens when you find out if the man is not the kind of man you need aside the wealth you went for?
Now don't get me wrong ladies, it's good to have a handsome man and a wealthy man for a husband. A man has to work to be able to provide the basic needs of his family. Never go for a lazy man or man who isn't making efforts to work but wants to hide behind a woman who works. 1 Timothy 5:8 says " But if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his household, has denied the faith and is worst than an unbeliever". So you see? a man has to work to provide for his family and God recommends it.
In as much as you want a cute, good looking man and a wealthy make sure he has a good heart and a heart for God. A man with a good heart can hardly fail you.
For the gentle men out there, what do you actually look for in a woman? It is commonly said that men are moved by sight but there is more to it. Do you go for a lady because she is so beautiful and her beauty seems to be out of this world? or you go for a lady because she is well shaped? what if you go for all these but at the end of the day you find it difficult to live with her under the same roof? Or she goes out of shape after giving birth to kids, what happens after then? Her character should be of utmost importance than her physical appearance. When a man goes after looks or the shape of a lady, the tendency to be unfaithful to his spouse comes out after she gives birth to kids and goes out of shape.
Dating gives you an opportunity to get to know the other person better and if you get to find out that you can't live with this person for one reason or the other, then quit the relationship. You are better of single than to be in a troubled marriage. No one is perfect but there are weaknesses of the other person you can live with and those you can't live with. Weigh these weaknesses before you say yes. Like they say " A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage". Marriage isn't a bed of roses, it comes with his challenges as well, so when you go into it, you should be ready to face the challenges that come with it and these challenges should be challenges you should be able to face with your husband or wife so you can count it all joy and not regret.
And if the other person quits the relationship for reasons best known to him or her, get a grip of yourself and move on. Yes you will hurt because it did not work out like you would want or expected but that is not the end of life. Move on because the best is ahead of you and God has the best for you.
For every single, get your priorities right. While you wait get busy with your life doing something meaningful and be happy with what you do. Improve and work on yourself. Don't remain idle as idleness can lead to frustration and depression. Be confident of yourself no matter what anybody says to you. People's opinion about your life don't matter. You will hear people say you are being selective or picky but its about what you want in life. Keep your faith and keep feeding your faith. Envisage your kind of marriage and partner and then trust it into God's hands and see God bring it to pass as long as it is in line with God's word.
Ladies while you wait don't go dating married men or go into dating for the fun of it as this might block your chances of meeting the one right for you. Same thing applies to men. Some men go after sugar mummies or smaller girls all in the name of whiling away time. You also hear ladies say they are whiling away time with so so and so person not knowing they might be blocking their chances of meeting the right one.
Know what you want in life and work towards it while you wait. Know your kind of man or woman. Never settles for less if what you want because you feel time is going and the clock us ticking.
Quote for the day - " If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on". - Steve Jobs.
Being single is not a curse but rather it presents so many opportunities in life. It presents you the opportunity in choosing the right partner for you, it presents you the opportunity to embark on adventures in life, it presents you the opportunity in career path and enables you to go higher in your career, and most of all it presents you the opportunity to know what you want and need in life before settling down in marriage because the freedom you get while being single could be limited once you get married.
Its a beautiful thing to get married but its more beautiful to get married to the one you love and who loves you back. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured so when you get married get married for all the right reasons and not just for the sake of getting married because of societal pressures, peer pressures or parental pressures. Never give in to pressure to get married. Marriage is a life time thing and so to be enjoyed for the rest of your life and not to be endured.
God in 3 John 1:2 said " Beloved. I pray in all respects that you may prosper and be in good health just as your soul prospers". This includes marriage. God wishes we make it right in all things even in marriage. It is never God's plans that we fail in marriage. He instituted marriage and gives it to everyone who desires to get married but what you make out of your marriage depends on you entirely. The person you choose to settle down with in life depends on you and its your decision to make but before you make such a huge decision, always ask God for his divine leading and direction to the right person. You can not do this alone and succeed without God's help and backing.
For the ladies, don't just go for a man's look or wealth because these things can fail and won't make the marriage a successful one. no doubt physical appearances are usually and most times our first point of attraction but after you get attracted by a man's physical appearance, what next? is he able to love you for who and what you are? is he able to take care of you? what is his level of reasoning like? can you cope with his level of reasoning? what is his heart like? does he have a good heart? and most of all does he have the fear of God in him?
Now how about when you go after a man because of his wealth? what happens God forbid if anything happens to the wealth? what happens when you find out if the man is not the kind of man you need aside the wealth you went for?
Now don't get me wrong ladies, it's good to have a handsome man and a wealthy man for a husband. A man has to work to be able to provide the basic needs of his family. Never go for a lazy man or man who isn't making efforts to work but wants to hide behind a woman who works. 1 Timothy 5:8 says " But if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his household, has denied the faith and is worst than an unbeliever". So you see? a man has to work to provide for his family and God recommends it.
In as much as you want a cute, good looking man and a wealthy make sure he has a good heart and a heart for God. A man with a good heart can hardly fail you.
For the gentle men out there, what do you actually look for in a woman? It is commonly said that men are moved by sight but there is more to it. Do you go for a lady because she is so beautiful and her beauty seems to be out of this world? or you go for a lady because she is well shaped? what if you go for all these but at the end of the day you find it difficult to live with her under the same roof? Or she goes out of shape after giving birth to kids, what happens after then? Her character should be of utmost importance than her physical appearance. When a man goes after looks or the shape of a lady, the tendency to be unfaithful to his spouse comes out after she gives birth to kids and goes out of shape.
Dating gives you an opportunity to get to know the other person better and if you get to find out that you can't live with this person for one reason or the other, then quit the relationship. You are better of single than to be in a troubled marriage. No one is perfect but there are weaknesses of the other person you can live with and those you can't live with. Weigh these weaknesses before you say yes. Like they say " A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage". Marriage isn't a bed of roses, it comes with his challenges as well, so when you go into it, you should be ready to face the challenges that come with it and these challenges should be challenges you should be able to face with your husband or wife so you can count it all joy and not regret.
And if the other person quits the relationship for reasons best known to him or her, get a grip of yourself and move on. Yes you will hurt because it did not work out like you would want or expected but that is not the end of life. Move on because the best is ahead of you and God has the best for you.
For every single, get your priorities right. While you wait get busy with your life doing something meaningful and be happy with what you do. Improve and work on yourself. Don't remain idle as idleness can lead to frustration and depression. Be confident of yourself no matter what anybody says to you. People's opinion about your life don't matter. You will hear people say you are being selective or picky but its about what you want in life. Keep your faith and keep feeding your faith. Envisage your kind of marriage and partner and then trust it into God's hands and see God bring it to pass as long as it is in line with God's word.
Ladies while you wait don't go dating married men or go into dating for the fun of it as this might block your chances of meeting the one right for you. Same thing applies to men. Some men go after sugar mummies or smaller girls all in the name of whiling away time. You also hear ladies say they are whiling away time with so so and so person not knowing they might be blocking their chances of meeting the right one.
Know what you want in life and work towards it while you wait. Know your kind of man or woman. Never settles for less if what you want because you feel time is going and the clock us ticking.
Quote for the day - " If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on". - Steve Jobs.
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