Emotional blacmail is seen as the"involvement of two or more people in a close relationship". This may be between a mother and a daughter,father and son,close friends, lovers and so on.
An emotional blackmailer uses fear or guilt on the other person for a selfish reason possibly knowing the weak point of the other person.
The controlling person usually does this out of inferiority complex, the need for acceptance,love and appreciation. Wanting such emotions aren't wrong but how the person goes about achieving them is what matters.
The controller and the controlled will suffer the consequences of such behavior. The controlled if not being careful usually gives in under pressure or out of fear which then results into a wrong decision. It is so wrong giving in to emotional black mail. It doesn't help the blackmailer neither would it helped the blackmailed. The blackmailer will never believe in him/her self and would always think that's the only way to get things done.
In a relationship of lovers, the controller if not helped will always have a low self esteem and if the controlled gives in, its usually out of pity for the blackmailer and trust me that relationship won't end well.
In a relationship between parents and children,emotional blackmail should never be encouraged by the kids and the parents. Its unfortunate that parents also use emotional blackmail on their kids just to achieve a selfish desire not minding what the kids want in life. Children also do same but the parents should always stand firm and not give in to emotional blackmail by their children.
What are your experiences on this? share and lets talk on it.
Your Life Coach
Rhoda Amapakabo
An emotional blackmailer uses fear or guilt on the other person for a selfish reason possibly knowing the weak point of the other person.
The controlling person usually does this out of inferiority complex, the need for acceptance,love and appreciation. Wanting such emotions aren't wrong but how the person goes about achieving them is what matters.
The controller and the controlled will suffer the consequences of such behavior. The controlled if not being careful usually gives in under pressure or out of fear which then results into a wrong decision. It is so wrong giving in to emotional black mail. It doesn't help the blackmailer neither would it helped the blackmailed. The blackmailer will never believe in him/her self and would always think that's the only way to get things done.
In a relationship of lovers, the controller if not helped will always have a low self esteem and if the controlled gives in, its usually out of pity for the blackmailer and trust me that relationship won't end well.
In a relationship between parents and children,emotional blackmail should never be encouraged by the kids and the parents. Its unfortunate that parents also use emotional blackmail on their kids just to achieve a selfish desire not minding what the kids want in life. Children also do same but the parents should always stand firm and not give in to emotional blackmail by their children.
What are your experiences on this? share and lets talk on it.
Your Life Coach
Rhoda Amapakabo
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hmmmm... thanks for the unveiling ma....
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